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A Letter to My Employees

In the 18 years that I have owned my own business and been your employer, I have never had this conversation with any of you. In light of the recent news regarding health insurance benefits and coverage, I think it is time I explain my thought process as I sit down with my partner each year to go over the health insurance renewal options we are presented. I saw a couple of you in the hall the other day having a respectful debate about the Hobby Lobby decision and could tell that you were really having a debate about abortion and Obamacare and not health insurance benefits.

One of the promises we make to you as your employer when we sit down at the conference table with all of the options in front of us is to never bring our personal politics or beliefs to that table. Before Obamacare and after, we have always faced premium increases each year and had to either accept that or try to find another carrier with similar coverage and lower premiums, or absorb the increase ourselves. Through the years we have done both as long as we didn’t decrease your benefits in any way. Moving forward, those premium increases may be bigger or they may be smaller with the new law changes, but either way we have always felt the obligation to provide you (our employees) with health insurance benefits that would best protect you and your family. We want you to be healthy and happy. We respect you as people and we need you working at your best to serve our clients – effective health insurance contributes to your overall well being.

You will never have to worry that my political party affiliation, or my religious beliefs, will be brought up when those decisions are being made. We are all entitled to believe what we feel is right and those beliefs come from a lifetime lived by each one of us. We all have different parents with different backgrounds and have grown up influenced by a myriad of different things. How can I be an effective employer if I don’t honor those differences and respect your life journey, and how you arrived as an employee for our company? Our company functions like a family and our clients benefit from that because we do respect everybody in this company. We don’t single people out for living with someone when they aren’t married, having a child too young, getting divorced or dating someone of the same gender. Honestly, as your employer I don’t think about it all. I just want you to be as peaceful as you can be working for our company. As long as you aren’t breaking the law, we intend to stay out of every decision you make outside of these doors.

Last year we were given an opportunity to renew our premiums before Obamacare was effective. It was a lower increase if we acted prior to January 1. As we do each year, we looked at all of the carriers and premiums before we arrived at our decision. The only reason that I even looked at the list of doctors and prescriptions was to be sure that everybody was going to be covered if we made a change. I am aware of some of the health issues that you have because I work with you and we refused to change if it was going to impact you in any way. We feel that way because you are the life of our business. If I was going to subject you or your benefits to my personal or religious feelings on any issue, I would be disrespecting how hard you work every day to get up and get kids off to school and then show up here to make sure our clients are getting the best possible service.

I would feel this way if I had two employees or 50,000. You would all be human beings that deserve effective leadership no matter how big our company might be, or what services we deliver. I don’t care if you are a young employee or one of the top paid managers. You all deserve my best efforts to lead this company. My best efforts will keep things like government and religion and bias out of the workplace. You don’t want it here impacting you and neither do I. We show up each day as a team to accomplish tasks that will better all of our lives. We don’t show up to judge each other or fight over who is right or who is wrong in how they choose to live their lives.

When we pick the health insurance benefits for you, we will find the most comprehensive plan we can and let the insurance company decide on the particulars of each of the prescription drugs and doctors. If they just so happen to cover a pill that assists with abortion, I leave it up to you as to whether or not you want to use that benefit. My only concern is to make sure that if you are sick, you will be covered. We will make sure your doctor or specialist is available through the plan we select. We will absorb increases if we have to so that you can pay your bills and feed your family. We will not push our political or religious agenda on you in any way. If we start doing that, we have lost our ability to lead and shouldn’t be your employer. Thank you for working here. You can rest easy tonight knowing that we will always honor this commitment to keep out of your personal life whether we agree with it or not.

An Open Letter to My Son

Last week you decided to attend the University of Nevada, rent an apartment with a few friends and start the process of next step of your life. This is the one where you will be making decisions without me and creating a life for yourself that won’t require my parenting, but rather my guidance. You seem ready to go now with only seven weeks left of high school and I have never experienced both my heart breaking and my complete pride in you at the same time (except when I watched what I knew was going to be your last at bat in your baseball career and you drove in the winning runs).

You were born in 1996. The world seemed easier to me back then. There wasn’t incredible pressure to breastfeed a newborn and nobody thought twice about circumcision or even vaccines. We followed the advice of our highly trained and educated doctors and things worked out just fine. I nursed you as long as I felt comfortable and then you were fed formula. I look at you now so healthy and strong and have no concerns about my decisions back then. Of course, we fed you lots of fruits and vegetables but some McDonalds might have slipped in there a few times, too and you still seem to be thriving.

I loved the freedom I had as a mother because it allowed me to concentrate on what I knew would matter to me the most – your soul. I didn’t worry about mercury or foreskins like new moms do today (even though maybe I should have) and I’m really glad I didn’t have to do that. Those issues seem so minor to me when I look at you now and realize that you are full of honor, respect, loyalty and a love for family that will guide you well into your adulthood. I disciplined you not with spanking or hitting you but with firm and clear rules and boundaries that I knew you would need to get through life. That discipline started from the moment you were born and continues to this day. When you were young, they started handing out trophies to everyone, but I loved that you never wanted those trophies. In fact, the only ones you have ever kept were the ones you earned because you knew that just merely showing up in life wasn’t good enough. They have taken to calling those trophies for everyone “finisher’s metals” as if merely completing the season is worthy of any recognition.

I made a vow to you when you were born and I still have that paper right here on my desk. That vow reads like this – Drew, I promise to do my best to guide and support you and to respect you enough to allow you to see the world through your own eyes. I promise to be your strength and emotional support until that times come that I have to let you fly.
Well my beautiful son, that time is fast approaching. The graduation announcements are being mailed, plans are in place for your 18th birthday, and your senior pictures are already taken. I have made plenty of mistakes the last 18 years and have held myself accountable to every single one of them, and the amazing thing is you have owned your part too. We have loved, we have fought, we have grown, we have supported one another, we have laughed and we have cried. A few years ago you even walked me down the aisle and although I know it was hard for you to accept another man into your home, you knew it was time to let go of the past and embrace a new future (something you will have to do many times in your life).

I’m so glad that I raised you to open doors for women, to respect people of all ages, to accept everyone and let them be the people they choose to be. I’m relieved that I always had the strength to discipline you and not get caught up in the latest crazes of parenting advice that were based only on self-esteem. You sat through plenty of time-outs and reflected on how you could be a better man. You have been grounded and had things taken away from you and learned that there are certain expectations that you have to meet. You have survived me raising my voice which will help you conquer an unfair world that won’t coddle you for any reason, Son. You have participated in household chores so that you will always know that in the end, there is just you and you have to take care of your business. You slept in your own bed your entire life and even cried it out a time or two as a baby, but you are an amazing sleeper and full of confidence in your emotional decisions. You lived through plenty of disappointments because I didn’t always say yes and never felt that I had to provide a long explanation as to why I said no.

Cheers to your future. I will always be here but you also know that it’s time to put on your big boy pants and start carving out your own life. That means you have to support yourself, make wise choices, and become a financially responsible adult. I know it’s in you. I look forward to watching you put your skills to work. I miss you already and you aren’t even gone.

Love,
Mom

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